I Don’t Care if “Men Hate This Trend”

If there’s one article that a lot of magazines and websites revisit again and again, it’s the topic of which popular fashion and beauty trends men hate. Every time I open Facebook or Twitter, I feel like I’m bombarded with some sort of expose featuring some sort of play on the words “Men Hate This Trend.”  When I googled those words, there were over 25 million results in .067 seconds.

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Quite honestly, I’m sick as hell of it. I could care less if men hate my makeup, my hairstyle, or that pair of culottes (but let’s be honest, culottes are called guachos and I rocked those in 2004).

Men “Hate My Look”

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One of my earliest make-up experiences happened way back in the 6th grade, where I had a love affair with blue eyeliner and maroon lipstick. I distinctly remember reapplying my sticky, dark colored lip gloss in my pink locker mirror after lunch, when a passing co-ed stopped and scoffed, “You know boys don’t like that, right?” He nodded in the direction of my lipgloss. Instead of backing down, I simply cocked my hip and spit back, “Good thing I don’t like boys.” 

But my unfortunate experiences with men, make-up, and fashion didn’t end there.

I’ve always had hair on the shorter side. I’ve only rocked a pixie cut once in my life – and I did like it – but the average length of my hair is chin-length. I have thin hair, so it looks thicker and healthier when it’s short. Plus, I think a chin bob is chic as hell. (Thanks, Anna Wintour).

Yet, discussing cutting my hair once again, someone flat out told me: “Oh, don’t you dare. Men like longer hair. Until you’re settled down, you shouldn’t cut your hair.” Um, what?

I also bleach my hair quite often – to an unnaturally white blonde color. Again, because I think it’s chic and I love the way that it works. It helps that grey, white, and silver hair are trending right now. Yet, a few weeks ago, I dyed it a more honey blonde hue for winter, and I ended up hating it. My stylist did a great job, I just didn’t love it. I felt like I’d lost my dynamic calling card.

But once again, over dinner with a guy friend, I was stylistically-cock-blocked. “Oh, I like this so much better. Honestly, it’s more approachable. You looked too intimidating with white hair.”

I Officially DGAF

Screen Shot 2016-01-03 at 5.10.30 PMBut I hated my hair that “approachable” color. I felt like I lost a bit of my edge. One of my girlfriends even commented that I had lost my most recognizable feature. I love dark lipstick, thick black eyeliner, and chin length, platinum hair – because it makes me feel confident. I work in fashion and having a dynamic and trendy look makes me feel better, more on top of my work, and honestly – makes me more memorable.

If a man has a problem with you, or your look, because of your style, hair cut, or a goddamn lipstick – then he’s the one with the problem.

I don’t care if you don’t like my look, or a trend, or a specific tube of tinted wax that a woman spreads on her lips in the morning. Because confidence is the sexiest feature, and I’ll drop dead before I take any more chauvinistic advice.

24 thoughts on “I Don’t Care if “Men Hate This Trend”

  1. I feel more put together and more comfortable when I dress the way that I want to dress. Dressing how others want my to just makes me feel uncomfortable.

  2. Amen!! That graphic about the Naked palettes is so freaking spot on for my feels on this subject. My boyfriend doesn’t care if I wear makeup or if I don’t wear makeup, and I love that. If he did care, I still wouldn’t, haha.

  3. The Betsey Johnson quote is spot on!! Who cares what men think? Don’t we dress to make ourselves feel good, to put in our own personality?

  4. Women need to do what makes them happy—not what men think they need for us to do to make them happy?

    Besides, do they reciprocate? I think not!

  5. I love love love THIS POST. sERIOUSLY, WE DRESS/DO OUR MAKEUP/CUT OUR HAIR THE WAY WE WANT TO. wE DON’T HAVE TO RUN EVERY LITTLE DECISION ABOUT OUR LOOKS PAST A MAN-AND PERPETUATING THAT IS WHAT IS SETTING US BACK TO THE STONEAGES. THE WRITERS WRITING THOSE POSTS NEED TO GROW THE HELL UP.

  6. LOL Love this! I wore my hair in a short pixie for several years and the number of comments I got from men and women about how no man liked that look and I should grow my hair out was really frustrating. I did end up deciding to grow my hair out, but I did it for me, not to attract some guy who wouldn’t be interested if my hair happened to be short or long. – Katy

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